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Voices of Youth

Posted by Lori Rosove on Tuesday, September 26, 2017, In : Adoption

It may have taken 16 years, but I finally feel the urge to write another book. Since Rosie continues to happily make her way into the hands of many children, I felt I should honour her for her tenacity, longevity, and stick to it-ness. Technically she should be 23 years old, right? Well, she was 7 in 2001 and so...she has to be 23 in 2017. As a 23 year old, Rosie probably has some great insight to share with the world about her adoption experience. So, it makes perfect sense that my next boo...
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Yes, the system works!

Posted by Lori Rosove on Wednesday, January 6, 2016, In : Adoption

I’ve heard it many times. Does this system really work? Will we really be able to adopt? I'm often told stories about people who wanted to adopt but it never happened. So, is there truth to these fearful questions? Yes there is…for some. But to understand this, we must take a look at the family’s requirements for a child. Are they asking for a child up to 3 without any potential for health or developmental concerns? Those two parameters alone - age and development- often do not sync ...

Loss: The Paradoxical Truth in Adoption

Posted by Lori Rosove on Sunday, September 22, 2013, In : Adoption

"The saddest day of my life was the happiest day of your life", wrote Ottawa social worker, Carol Shipley, in her book, Love, Loss, and Longing: Stories of Adoption, quoting her birth mother upon meeting Carol's adoptive mother.

No doubt, adoption brings a complexity to one's psyche that otherwise may not exist if a different choice was made. But who would argue with the plan to have a family raise a child with all the necessary aspects of life - stability, consistency, structure, and love - ...
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Don't Forget About the Goodness

Posted by Lori and Jordan Rosove on Thursday, April 25, 2013, In : Adoption

Well, it's been a while since I've written. It's definitely not because there hasn't been anything to write about, but moreso because I've been really busy with the actual work that I do. But now, after returning almost three weeks ago from a one week vacation where my husband and I chose Boston as our destination, I am taking the time to write. It was our first time there and we got home just before the terrible events of last Monday. Our hearts sank on hearing about this tragedy especially...

Adopted Seven Year Old Child Repeatedly Spanked Black and Blue

Posted by Lori Rosove on Wednesday, February 27, 2013, In : Adoption

What's the first feeling that comes to you when you read this title? Disgust, horror, fear, anger, sympathy? Perhaps all of those. What do we make of this situation? Let's get the first part out of the way. The parent, likely a full grown adult, intentionally brings physical harm to a little child. We can all agree that is just not acceptable. Now, let's get on to the fact that the child was adopted. Yes, this fact does make this situation seem even more reprehensible. Why? Well, for starters...
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It's a Beautiful Thing

Posted by Lori Rosove on Wednesday, January 30, 2013, In : Adoption

Last week, I had the honour of participating in a wonderful experience. As the counsellor to a lovely birth mother, who had chosen to place her newborn child for adoption, I was able to witness an abundance of love bestowed upon the central player in the adoption circle; the child. This love was shared and shown by the birth mother and the adoptive parents. How do I know that? When I see a birth mother expressing her newly created colostrum and giving the bottle to the adoptive parents to fe...
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"Shame on the Scum."

Posted by Lori Rosove on Wednesday, January 16, 2013, In : Adoption

A little harsh perhaps? Well, these aren't my words, but the words of thousands of people marching through Moscow streets, protesting Russia's new law banning Americans from adopting Russian children. Why would they do this? In retaliation for a new U.S. law targeting Russians accused of human rights abuses. So, can you blame the protesters for their choice of vocabulary? I mean, victimizing children to make a political point? What is going on? How is this ok?

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Happy Adoption Month!

Posted by Lori Rosove on Friday, November 16, 2012, In : Adoption

Kudos to Family and Children's Services of Waterloo region for this outstanding video on adopting children:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnkOl8iSY1k. The timing is fantastic considering November is Adoption Awareness month. Awareness is the key word in that sentence.

How did it come to be that many people share a generally agreed upon perception that older children are 'damaged goods' and therefore unadoptable? (By older, let's say more than three). Was it a Hollywood movie, a newspaper arti...
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A Little Compassion Can Go a Long Way

Posted by Lori Rosove on Tuesday, October 30, 2012, In : Adoption

Who says: "The older the wiser"? I may be wrong, but lately, the number of acts of kindness I have been seeing from children far outweighs what I've been seeing from adults. In fact, I think the saying should be: "The older the more self indulgent". But, that's another topic all together. Ok, now I have a whole bunch of enemies I didn't have before writing this! But wait, stay with me on this. I'm not just getting down on us older folks for no reason. Honestly, there is reason. There is purpo...
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Walking for Adoption

Posted by Lori Rosove on Tuesday, October 2, 2012, In : Adoption

Saturday, September 29, was a spectacular day. It was the Adoption Council of Canada's 4th annual Adoptwalk. Teaming up with The Children's Bridge Foundation, representatives from both agencies did a fantastic job in providing a fun filled day that raised funds for essential programs to aid children in care.

Being there myself, I can attest to the direct relationship between the warming sun and the smiles on children's faces. At the registration table, I greeted the eager families who were ex...
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Post Adoption Blues

Posted by Lori Rosove on Wednesday, March 28, 2012, In : Adoption

Your child's not sleeping well, you find yourself alone more than you've ever been, and you wonder if your presence in your child's life is more of a curse than a blessing. Be honest, people. Who hasn't experienced at least one of these conditions? Exhaustion, isolation, and self doubt are the accepted tenets of early parenthood, are they not? Note: I didn't say early biological parenthood. Why would these conditions apply only to those parents who gave birth to their child? Is it possible t...
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Birth Fathers Really Do Care

Posted by Lori Rosove on Friday, February 10, 2012, In : Adoption

What do birth fathers want? Are their children important to them? Do they want to stay in contact with their birth children after they make a decision to place them for adoption? Do they think about their birth children after they've been adopted?

These questions are often assumed to be "nothing, no, no, and no." But where is this information coming from? There are a lot of stereotypes floating around about birth fathers and most commonly, how minimally they participate in an adoption plan w...
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